Australian writer of Montenegrin descent en route to a polyglot European port at the head of the Adriatic mid-2011 shipwrecks instead on the SE Asian Equator. 12, 36, 48…80, 90++ months passage out awaited. Scribble all the while. By some process stranger than fiction, a role as an interpreter of Islam develops; Buddhism & even Hinduism. (Long story.)
Sunday, October 28, 2018
Exchange of News & Views
Thursday, October 25, 2018
Star_ucks Desperation
Wednesday, October 24, 2018
Wedding Bells
May22 revision
Wedding Bells
Some days before newsreports had appeared of the disturbances at the Hindu temple in the Southern Indian state of Kerala. A recent ruling of the Indian Supreme Court had overturned the prohibition against menstruating women entering the famous Sabarimala Temple.
Hard-line traditionalists were resisting the decree, numbers of local women among them. A stand-off had resulted, threats of violence one side and vows to persist the other.
In neighbouring Tamil Nadu the position of conservatives and reformers would be much the same. The Muslims too had a problem with menstruating women attending prayers at the mosque.
There would be no easy resolution here.
Preparing for attendance at the wedding of the Komala Vilas cashier’s daughter, the news had drawn attention.
Four or five months before when the mother of the bride, the Komala Auntie, had begun with arrangements a consultation with an astrologer was mentioned. In fact it emerged that before the wedding could be planned the astrologer’s deliberations were crucial.
There was one bejewelled and marked old man always resplendent in finest starched dress who regularly lunched at the restaurant. Clearly some kind of holy man, it came as a surprise when it turned out that the chap was in fact a professional astrologer.
In the Indian sectors in Malaysia the pavement fortune-tellers often consulted what appeared to be astrological charts, spread on the ground in front of the customer. The man at KV had clearly found a much better paying clientele; kept an office perhaps, or else visited and conducted business at the temples.
Whenever this dignified old man took his lunch at Komala V. the waiters, customers and senior staff granted him particular attention. Whether the astrologer was charged for meals was unclear.
In the surveys of the charts might a prospective Hindu bride’s menstrual cycle be factored into calculations for the most auspicious date for a wedding?
Even in the case of a professional young woman in Singapore, in this instance marrying a Westerner? A Brisbane Queenslander.
Numerous questions that arose in the long lead-up could not really be put. Certainly not to the bride’s mother.
Though the prospect of a Hindu wedding did appeal, there was hesitation about accepting the invitation. Had the KVcashier Auntie not given a number of reminders, almost certainly there would have been an avoidance. This lovely woman could not be denied. Having a fellow Australian in attendance from her side might have been thought welcome too for the new son-in-law.
For some strange reason the wedding was due to commence at 7: 30AM. Unless it was something more mundane, possibly it was the astrologer’s doing again.
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All easy enough in the bus from Geylang Serai, about 25 minutes and deposited on the doorstep of Sri Mariamman in Chinatown.
The Chinese bus driver didn’t know the temple by name, but there were two just there off South Bridge Road. It would be one or the other, the man assured.
Bells from the morning prayer had immediately indicated the way. The timing was perfect, not yet the half hour.
At the entry there were three or four dozen slippers of worshippers who had arrived earlier still.
Inside the doors it took some while to realise this particular place was not the site for the wedding proper. Here the regular morning prayers were taking place; the wedding would be held up in the adjacent hall on the left. One of the older worshippers indicated the stairs.
There had been no sign of the cashier Aunt nor any other familiar face down by the altar.
A bugger too not having anticipated the removal of the hat; a old man obliged with that advice.
While waiting for familiar faces to appear the morning prayer had been interesting to observe. It had not been seen before. Up in the inner sanctum the worshipping of the lingam was familiar from earlier temple visits. The fast-paced circuit in front, however, had not been seen previously. There was almost the look of a race about it, and one or two Chinese participating with what looked a competitive spirit.
Four or five years ago the Tamil yoga teacher Ranie had said the Chinese often prayed in Hindu temples, for luck in the lotteries. Something more seemed to be involved in this case.
Upstairs the Queensland groom’s party were waiting to greet the guests on entry, a freckled and ginger-haired dozen all in dhotis and saris. Inevitably there was a sense of fancy dress and at the introductions a joke needed to be restrained.
At the front of the room the priest was busy with his preparations, the easily identified groom hot-footing around the raised platform.
A pair of musicians, drummer and horn player, sat up front on the floor against the wall. At what seemed some irrelevant point, these two abruptly started playing and kept up for the duration pretty much. One of the pair later inserted a bell that could not be sighted.
The Tamil mother-in-law, the KV cashier Auntie, had been difficult to identify from ten metres off in her colourful clothes and beneath her make-up and heavy kohl liner.
In some conversation with the priest, which may have been part of official proceedings, the Auntie’s head loll was visible from behind.
The take-away lady from the KV kitchen was similarly spectacular and similarly unrecognisable in her attire.
Whenever the KV owner visited the restaurant she was always dressed in that elaborate fashion. This woman arrived an hour late, but still in time to perform her role blessing the bride. It turned out the woman had overslept after news her younger daughter had just given birth in the States.
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The blessing of the bride was the highlight of the ceremony.
Eventually the young woman entered, took her place on the floor up front before the settee and soon one woman after another began attending her in brief turns.
First came the mother passing two or three clay vessels around her daughter, standing on the girl’s right starting at the near shoulder, behind to the other and then around in front, where both knees were touched by the bowls and trays.
After the mother it must have been the aunts come out from Chennai, two younger women who were in their own elaborate costumes—not quite as outstanding as those worn by the Singaporean contingent. During the acquaintance at KV the cashier Aunt had returned to her birthplace two or three times for the weddings of nieces and nephews. Here her sisters were returning the favour, circling the young bride with the vessels in preparation for the journey before her.
The young woman bore up smilingly under the attention; aunts and mother the same on their side.
A bottle-brush moustachioed man standing to the side off the platform against the wall could only have been the father of the bride. None of the audience looked out front as keenly, though the man seemed to have nothing to do with formal proceedings. Certainly there was none of the Western giving away of the bride.
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Bride and groom had been working and living in Myanmar the last couple of years. The Australian connection had troubled the KV Aunt from the outset with the distance and likelihood of ongoing separation. Yet there were no tears, no obvious emotion, neither of happiness or foreboding. Not all mothers across the globe cried at their daughters’ weddings.
After the two aunts from Chennai had completed their blessing it was the turn of the KV owner, clearly a good friend of the cashier. The pair often sat together, both behind the register and at the tables over lunch. That the owner was a good sort had been proved over the years with her kindness and consideration for her workers, mostly poor fellow Tamils from the homeland, and sometimes Muslims among them.
During the preparation of the bride with what looked like the sprinkling of turmeric, among other dressings, it had been the groom’s sister assuming the position beside her on the floor.
The two women were being formally confirmed, while the groom’s mother, who was also in attendance, was left out of proceedings. No doubt a Hindu mother-in-law came into her own in the time ahead; that figure always featured prominently in the annals and in the Bollywood movies. (The father of the groom had not appeared.)
Fertility rites were prominent: with the touches on the bride’s knees there also came various fruits on trays, young coconuts and other bounty.
The pair of new brothers-in-laws took a turn on the platform together later, the bride’s brother grasping the other by the wrist in something that looked like strong-arming as they first began their move up the aisle.
The blessing of this pair seemed less consequential, perhaps understandably.
Bride and groom would likely end on the settee together in the last half hour, showered with flowers or the like. Then photographs of family and friends on the stage.
The Malays sat their brides and grooms on thrones before the guests, kings and queens for a day, they said, the floor before them carpeted with money.
Taking the lead from the quiet Tamil waiter who had briefly attended, in the end an envelope was improvised and a couple of tens inserted as an offering before departure.
The waiter had left his envelope with a couple sitting in the row in front.
In preparation for the event the Sufi Zainuddin, who had attended a number of Hindu weddings in his time, had suggested a tenner was enough.
The last of the proceedings would be missed. It seemed best to withdraw. The ceremony was due to end at 9: 30 and the feast after that.
Weeks later the KV Aunt expressed her disappointment a number of times that no food had been taken at her daughter’s wedding. One lunchtime she had attempted to pay for the Komala meal by way of recompense.
NB. Reliable information that followed suggested the guess-work was correct: the menstrual cycle would indeed have factored in the astrologer’s calculations, along with date & time of birth. And the mother of the groom being a widow left no role for her in a Hindu ceremony.
Singapore 2011-20
Saturday, October 20, 2018
Voided
Woeful as you can get the family gatherings at the Void tables, especially full complement with child on the fringe venturing a few steps beyond to explore its habitat. Recently painted walls, a new couple of metres of path added connecting two routes (minus lip for wheelchairs and stumbling elderly). Woeful maximus. Gangster infested flooded slums with rats less dire.
Friday, October 19, 2018
Dollars & Dope
Aljunied lunch $5 flat with the Uncle’s 30c discount for a regular who had prompted for promotion price. It was about time wasn’t it, Unc?... Bee hoon noodles were they? tatters, mock beef and bok choy with lotus soup. Man would have been robbing his grandchildren offering any less. En route around the corner by the lane and the hardware store “Embroidered Brows” at the electrified dazzling special price of $168 ONLY. The hairdresser offering was named Pop Pop. (Tattooed were for the HDB have-nots; presumably the offering at City Plaza currently for $6.) This superior and more proper knitting no doubt lasted three times longer; five and ten times would not surprise. The Chinese in particular suffered for the lack of brows. Ladies gained with lesser facial and underarm, but the brows were important for photography in particular. Tinting too added definition. Chap clearing the plates there below the MRT missing the teeth would not deny the term he had spent at Changi. Half-dozen meetings now, plates returned under one’s own steam, permission given trying the panama—there was a certain rapport established. The long pipe was it Uncle?... Too right, the man replied, only the faintest blanching at the confession. Corroborated too was the half metre length; the long, satisfying draw described, and the smoke outta the nostrils. Thirty-five, forty years experience of Users down in the Great Southern Land was needed in order to pick ordinary Joes with very few outward signs. With the growing liberalization they were going to be shown up here before long, the Justice Minister and all the rest of the hard deniers all these years later after all the hangings and incarceration. What if the industry now really took off? Canada, Australia, Uruguay and the others stealing a march? Thailand was making noises in today’s paper and neighbouring Malaysia too. With all the experience of the dens and hot trade in the recent past, letting late-comers leap ahead would grate here. Was science and research to be denied? What if under regs. and for medical treatment and rec. use there were big, mouthwatering $$$$$ to be made? Could the little red dot hot spot sit back on its heels arms crossed holding to out-dated principles?... One was reminded of the poor Indian lady at KV, whose son returning from OZ being a convicted felon (possession) was tested and immediately thrown into prison. Five days later the leaf was still detectable. Change was in the wind.
NB. A homage to Tom Pynchon and his generation rather than anything else. This author has always happily done without.
Monday, October 15, 2018
Birds of a Feather
Tuesday, October 9, 2018
Humblest Apology
Monday, October 8, 2018
One World
Indian lad this afternoon by the table on his free day with a white/green striped labelled high on the chest, ADMIRABLE. In the chap’s mind he was likely thinking of the highest nautical rank. (A couple of generations ago affluent families dressed pretty boys in peaked, laurel-leafed ship captain’s hats.) Clueless gaucherie from the Third World sweatshops only a few years ago; more recently the catwalks were seizing upon precisely such kind of affectlessness for their designs. (To wit Melania’s jacket visiting the children’s camp on the Mexican border.) On the Saturday an instant reflex at the Serangoon bus-stop sighting the approaching Russians were they? Even before the blue baseball cap worn by Dad could be deciphered. A spectator at the US Open had lost an eye recently because of an errant drive on the fairway. It might have been even worse, the woman was reported to have said: she might have died from the blow. This Ruski badged with the sporting marquee event had come through unscathed, arrived in Singapore, passed through Little India’s temples and eateries and now was catching a bus someplace else. Wife, son and daughter-in-law in tow. You could tell the filial relation by a sign from the younger man to Dad within the shelter where he had taken a seat—resting against a lamppost—head-turn and nod indicated the coming bus was for them. In the States following the players around the course would not have been as taxing as the exploration of Little India in Singapore’s heat and humidity. Was it worth the candle for the Ruski? For the photos at the temples, the food at the restaurants, the cultural centre and Campbell Lane market? A new cap of brightest blue; son was bareheaded same as the rest of the party. A few years ago average stays in Singapore were 2-3 days, before connecting flights were caught. Construction sector work contracts were five or seven years up to the age of thirty-five, usually. Neither Admirable nor genuine US Open apparel had been seen here before; both were bought off-shore. Five or six years ago a Chinese girl in G. Serai who had been complimented on her tee said she never bought her clothes in Singapore. Last week a yoga teacher was met at the KV lunch table, chap who worked only mornings in order to give himself time for his own practise and his two young children. For some strange reason, in this instance the unkempt beard and unlabelled, single-coloured drab tee had not given signal of the man’s uniqueness here. With the absences in Malaysia and Indo, months past and perhaps even over a year, the Luck Meets Opportunity / Preparation Seneca tee had not been sighted on the streets. Then like a thunderstorm from a summer sky, an unexpected jungle ambush, suddenly within the same day two or even three men had barrelled into the field of vision with the same. Had it been produced locally, specifically for this market? Difficult to imagine it might be found elsewhere. Israel or Dubai perchance? Delhi during this Modi reign?... It was little wonder the original straw panama had drawn so much notice, coming up seven years. How often had one been told how much more striking a figure was created with it? how many compliments, smiles and salutes? There had been two muddled conversations in recent days with professional young expats casually encountered. The first, a young Viet “global citizen,” as she described herself, had been told her country had not been visited essentially because of guilt over the war. For a first meeting with a youngster like that, this had been way too much information of course. Way, way too much. Nicely enough taken in stride in this instance. A young Indian banker who had lived in Sing two years and had a recent three month assignment in Melbourne sitting over a quick prataat Wadi had been engaged entirely and exclusively on matters concerning India: her Bangalore home town, Indian food, the changed demographic in Melbourne in recent years; &etc; &etc. All inevitably, unavoidably, carrying the unstated, deeply troubling subtexts, colour, the rape controversies, communal strife, caste; &etc; &etc. Last thing a young lady needed reminding on a fine evening.
NB. “Luck is what happens when opportunity meets preparation,” Seneca
Thursday, October 4, 2018
Grand March
Finally this morning the over-lapping of the music behind the house was sorted properly. On the first patch of grass the usual tai chi ladies were moving through their routines, cracking in unison their large red fans with the sound of gun shots when the garbage was taken out. Further around toward Block 6 another, larger group in orange polos were slow stepping left and right, swivelling and stretching their arms. The latter were newcomers to that place, a recently formed group, or perhaps relocated from another quarter. Two or three days now the musical accompaniment at that hour of morning confused and could not be properly deciphered. Buddhist funerary music had become familiar over the years here; with the tai chi group sometimes playing their own form, however, the conjunction these last days was difficult to separate and distinguish. None of the yellow tenting or awning had been visible from the back of the house, nor from the corner going out to the road. Finally this morning it was the rousing martial beat and the stirring lyric with which the dead were escorted to their new homes that gave the game away. Unmistakeable that and unique. There had been a death in the upper corner of the Haig Blocks, perhaps within No.s 2 or 3. In such compact housing with people placed one on top of the other in twelve or thirteen blocks all the ceremonials of life arrived regularly there and were to greater or lesser degree shared, willy nilly. The strident up-beat of this particular passage was quite remarkable. Did it trace its genesis to war-time and strife; a military guard providing honour? One could imagine the role of this hymn in the clan associations; to an outsider drinking songs were another suggestion. Death was not to be feared. Stout heart, hold firm and strong. The Russian Funeral March was more sombre and far more doleful.
Wednesday, October 3, 2018
Fair and Square
Five years later Beefy’s Home boy moniker came as a surprise. “Beef” was of course one’s own invention and the Bruiser had retaliated on his side with Oscar. You would have to ask Beef how the man had arrived at that. No complaints, Osk. was a bit alright; certainly it was rather better than the default John. One thought of the reckless Irishman of course. Understandably, Beef didn’t much like his own tag, but the man let it ride. Mocked for his jelly-belly Beefy had the gumption to contest the matter. There was nothing particularly fat guts about him, not at all. Why? Like anything else in B.’s case, this was no put-on. Babi used to say, We can never see ourselves.